Tuesday, June 09, 2009

36 Weeks Pregnant: The End Game

I am so jealous of moms who say they get bored in the final weeks of their pregnancies, waiting for baby to show up. Maybe it's because I'm a reporter, but to me July 8 is just one more deadline looming ever nearer, and it's really hitting me that we have done nothing -- nothing! -- to prepare for the arrival of this little boy.
Seeing Heather Armstrong's gorgeous nursery on Dooce.com did not help calm my rising sense of panic. We decided to keep our third bedroom as a den and guest room for now, since it gets a lot of use, and to make a few adjustments in our bedroom to make it baby hospitable for the first few months at least. After that, we'll contemplate whether to move all three kids into our room (a loft would be involved), renovate the basement into a guestroom/den, or what.
We've never done a nursery, and in fact I've spilled plenty of digital ink pooh-poohing the whole idea. But as my nesting instincts kick in, there is a chance that I'll wake up in the middle of the night sometime soon and start furiously emailing contractors to turn that guest room into the world's most adorable little boy room.
Not a very big chance, though. Mostly I'm feeling too tired and uncomfortable to get anything done. Looking through the journal where I've kept notes on all three of my pregnancies, I think this one has been the most comfortable overall. In both of the previous ones, I had episodes of pretty bad back pain and nauseau in the second and early third trimesters, something I've mostly escaped this time. I've had some heartburn but it hasn't been persistent.
But this weekend, I dunno. At first I thought the baby had dropped because his incessant kicking at the inside of my rib cage stopped and my pelvis began to feel much more heaviness and pressure. It's a weird but kind of informative experience to have body parts that are usually left alone probed from the inside. It's like, "Hey! That's my .... bladder you're punching. And that's definitely my cervix you're headbopping. But what's that ... my spleen? Oof, no, it's my bowel, I think."
Whether he dropped a little lower or not, yesterday Toth managed to get his foot right back inside my rib cage, bringing the return of the backache that naturally accompanies this position. Maybe dropping a little lower allowed him to unbend his knee a bit.
All this is a bit of a pain in the daytime, but sleeping has become a problem, like it always does at the end of pregnancy. I've been waking up many times a night to pee for weeks, but now when I wake up, it hurts. My ribs ache, my hips ache, and I find myself reaching for my walker before I remember that I am 35 and not 95. By morning I feel like I have been beaten up and it takes me a good hour or so before the soreness of the night wears off.
So, OK, maybe I CAN understand how many women get anxious at this point to give birth. But as uncomfortable as I am right now, I still can't wish the end any closer, because before that baby comes I have a monster to-do list, or at least I will as soon as I get around to MAKING the pre-baby to-do list. That's item one.
P.S. I wanted to upload a belly pic, but I can't find our camera. Guess that's another item for the pre-baby to-do list.


Sara said...

wow--reality check. when i hit 36 weeks i was two days from delivering h. yikes.

hope all goes well for you. i remember very well those aches and pains of the last stretch.

Bert said...

This is a wonderful post and, I'm sure, will make me feel much better about my non-readiness in a few months. Thanks! :)

Steph at Problem Solvin' Mom said...

There are so many things to do, my list is long as well (though I have a few more weeks, sitting at 30 right now). It would be endless if I let it, but I crossed a lot of the less essential ones off before they ever made it onto paper. Wishing you a productive and comfy next couple of weeks.

Unknown said...

Not really to go now... Do you feel prepared for the birth yet? I just had my first baby, a little boy called Marlow, such a great experience. Have you thought about ynames yet? http://www.bounty.com/babynames/ is a great place to search as you can look by origin and meaning!. Love the blog - I really hope things go well for you hun! xxxx